Testimonials

Spe­cial father-daugh­ter bond forms after fol­low­ing the Doc­tor Daum pro­gram

My daugh­ter had just turned six years old when I called Dr. Daum. Pri­or to speak­ing with him, we con­sult­ed three oth­er high­ly qual­i­fied pro­fes­sion­als, but met with no suc­cess.  For three years, our daugh­ter strug­gled with poop­ing in the toi­let and it was dri­ving us crazy.  I found his web­site in March of this year, and we start­ed his pro­gram in ear­ly April.  We spoke on the phone often, and he assured us that he would do all that he could to help our daugh­ter.  He deliv­ered on his promise, and thanks to Dr. Daum, our daugh­ter is con­fi­dent­ly using the toi­let each day and at school.

She is a con­fi­dent young girl, and I am proud to say that we have devel­oped a spe­cial bond due to the pro­gram that Dr. Daum led us through.  I would high­ly rec­om­mend Dr. Daum to any­one strug­gling with enco­pre­sis with their chil­dren.  He is by far the only per­son I would con­sult with this issue.

Bill
A Her­culean With­hold­er

Lau­ren began with­hold­ing when she was around 9 months.  She wouldn’t go for days, then would have a mas­sive blowout. This became the pat­tern and I just thought it was nor­mal- the way she func­tioned.  Just before she turned two, I noticed that she began turn­ing bright red and would strain with every­thing in her to try and keep from hav­ing a BM.  I began chang­ing her dirty dia­pers around 8–11 times a day and it was mis­er­able for every­one! My pedi­a­tri­cian rec­om­mend­ed Miralax and it worked for a short time, but she has Her­culean strength when it comes to with­hold­ing and soon it wasn’t mak­ing a dif­fer­ence whatsoever.

We came across Dr. Daum a lit­tle over a year lat­er and I was des­per­ate for a solu­tion.  Our lives were so restrict­ed.  The sec­ond day of the pro­gram, Lau­ren self-ini­ti­at­ed with suc­cess!  I was so sur­prised and ecsta­t­ic when I heard that beau­ti­ful ‘plop’ in the pot­ty!  I nev­er thought that day would come.
Dr. Daum was sup­port­ive each step of the way and I couldn’t believe how avail­able he made him­self to us.  I high­ly rec­om­mend this pro­gram.  It is worth every sin­gle pen­ny and the best invest­ment I’ve made for my daughter.

Lauren’s Mom
Moth­er Of A Head­strong Boy Describes Her Joy

As I write this I’m still wor­ried about jinx­ing things but we are offi­cial­ly at one month that Ben­jamin has not tak­en any exlax and has still gone to the bath­room every day. Each time I sat down to update you, I thought I would jinx things but I tru­ly feel like we’ve turned the cor­ner. It took all of one year to get to this place and we have you to thank. We stuck with your pro­gram and IT WORKED!! I am pre­pared for set­backs of course because Ben­jamin is quite head strong but this has been a huge relief for Jack and me. 

We want to thank you and Michelle so very much for car­ing about this very real issue for chil­dren and chal­lenge for the families.

Hope you are well!!

One Year Later
A moth­er writes: “Anoth­er suc­cess sto­ry here that you can add to your files“

Lau­ren start­ed with Dr Daum in Novem­ber 2013 at 12.5 yrs old.  Now, June 13th and she is doing great.  Only on the rarest occa­sion does she ever have an accident.

Truth­ful­ly, I was begin­ning to doubt that she would ever get out of pull-ups for BM’s.  This has changed our lives.  Lau­ren is “typ­i­cal” in so many ways and because she was still soil­ing her­self there were so many pro­grams and oppor­tu­ni­ties she could not take advan­tage of.  In a school set­ting she was placed with very low func­tion­ing kids, as these are typ­i­cal­ly kids who still have toi­let­ing issues.

She is real­ly soar­ing now. She is so proud of her­self and her cool underwear.

Thanks!!!!

Sara
We stuck with your pro­gram and IT WORKED!!

Good After­noon Dr. Daum!
As I write this I’m still wor­ried about jinx­ing things but we are offi­cial­ly at one month since Con­nor has not tak­en any exlax and has still gone to the bath­room every day. Each time I sat down to update you, I thought I would jinx things but I tru­ly feel like we’ve turned the cor­ner.  It took all of one year to get to this place and we have you to thank. We stuck with your pro­gram and IT WORKED!!  I am pre­pared for set­backs of course because Con­nor is quite head strong but this has been a huge relief for Jack and me.

We want to thank you and Michelle so very much for car­ing about this very real issue for chil­dren and chal­lenge for the families.

Connor’s mom
Moth­er of Autis­tic Daugh­ter Is Grate­ful To Dr Daum

We worked with Dr. Daum almost a year ago. Our then six year old daugh­ter with autism still wasn’t pot­ty trained. It wasn’t easy by any means, but it def­i­nite­ly works! Dr. Daum and his wife were won­der­ful to work with. 

The tim­ing for us to start the pro­gram hap­pened to be over the July 4th hol­i­day, and even though he was on vaca­tion, Dr. Daum still touched base with us every day!
We are eter­nal­ly grate­ful to him and his wife, and high­ly rec­om­mend his pro­gram. It has helped improve her self con­fi­dence and allowed us to move on to help her with some of her oth­er behaviors.

Rachel
Moth­er Des­per­ate To Help Her Son In Kinder­garten

Thank you, Dr. Daum!

My son and I vis­it­ed Dr. Daum ear­ly in the Fall of 2014. At that point my son had start­ed kinder­garten, and was con­stant­ly hav­ing bow­el move­ments and uri­nat­ing in his pants. He had some­how man­aged to stay dry dur­ing school the first two weeks of school, but I knew that it was only a mat­ter of time before he’d start hav­ing acci­dents in school too. I was des­per­ate to help him but didn’t know what to do. 

I had dis­cussed the mat­ter with my Pedi­a­tri­cian sev­er­al times and received the same advice, “you have to make not hav­ing an acci­dent worth it to him.” Real­ly? How? Pos­i­tive rein­force­ment didn’t work. Neg­a­tive rein­force­ment didn’t work. Bribery didn’t work. Pun­ish­ment didn’t work. Rewards didn’t work. Final­ly, my pedi­a­tri­cian sug­gest­ed that I see a gas­troen­terol­o­gist. My son had sev­er­al tests done, every­thing seemed fine, and he was put on a course of Miralax to “clean him out.” My son HATED tak­ing the Miralax but did it, and then con­tin­ued to have acci­dents daily—multiple times a day, actually.

Final­ly, a friend sug­gest­ed that I check out Dr. Daum’s web site. She knew Dr. Daum and thought he might help. At this point I didn’t think any­one could help, but my friend per­sist­ed and I final­ly looked at his web site. The sto­ries sound­ed all too famil­iar and the (most­ly) pos­i­tive feed­back was reas­sur­ing. I think I sched­uled an appoint­ment that very moment.

My son and I drove out to meet Dr. Daum. I’ll nev­er for­get my first encounter with him. He asked me why we were there. I stat­ed that we were there because my son was con­stant­ly hav­ing acci­dents. To my GREAT SURPRISE, Dr. Daum then said the fol­low­ing to me: “Say no more. Your son’s prob­lem is behav­ioral and I can prob­a­bly fix it in five days.”

His con­fi­dence in his approach, his com­mon sense approach, and his abun­dance of expe­ri­ence all made me trust him. And I am so glad that I did. While it took more like ten days, after fol­low­ing Dr. Daum’s spe­cif­ic instruc­tions, my son was CLEAN AND DRY, self-ini­ti­at­ing, and feel­ing good about himself!

Dr. Daum is won­der­ful. He gives you all the time in the world. He calls you and checks up on you to see how you are doing. He berates you when you don’t fol­low his instruc­tions, which, although dif­fi­cult to take, is what makes him so spe­cial. He knows his approach works, and he doesn’t tol­er­ate par­ents who impro­vise. In fact, dur­ing the peri­od when we were re-train­ing my son, each and every set­back that my son had was prob­a­bly caused by my not fol­low­ing Dr. Daum’s instructions.

Dr. Daum pro­vid­ed me with an approach to help my son that worked, and worked quick­ly, some­thing that NO OTHER PROFESSIONAL COULD PROVIDE. I am so grate­ful to Dr. Daum.

Kinder­garten Mom Grate­ful to Dr Daum!
I Have Been Refer­ring Fam­i­lies To Dr Daum For Over Twen­ty Years

Refuah Resources is a not-for-prof­it orga­ni­za­tion ded­i­cat­ed to pro­vid­ing med­ical refer­rals, advo­ca­cy, and guid­ance to patients fac­ing med­ical chal­lenges. As the direc­tor of Refuah Resources, it has been both a priv­i­lege and a plea­sure for me to work with you over the last twen­ty years. On behalf of myself and my staff at Refuah Resources I’d like to express appre­ci­a­tion for the excel­lent med­ical care you pro­vide. Dur­ing this time you’ve treat­ed hun­dreds of patients that we’ve referred to you and you have shown a will­ing­ness to go the extra mile to accom­mo­date these patients at all hours of the day and night. Your skill and exper­tise deal­ing with toi­let train­ing issues even with spe­cial needs and dif­fi­cult, defi­ant chil­dren has earned you a nation­al rep­u­ta­tion for your work.

You have inspired our con­fi­dence in your clin­i­cal and diag­nos­tic abil­i­ties and have earned our admi­ra­tion for your ded­i­ca­tion to your patients and your com­mit­ment to excel­lence in med­i­cine. The many grate­ful patients we’ve placed in your care have ben­e­fit­ed great­ly from that commitment.

Rab­bi Shuky BermanDirec­torRefuah Resources5904 13th Avenue, Brook­lyn, NY 11219
I Almost Cried The First Time He Went Alone…

I almost cried the first time my son got up from the table, and went to the bath­room alone. He came out with the biggest smile and declared “I did it, I pooped in the pot­ty all by myself”. This was less than a week after meet­ing with Dr. Daum for the first time.

I had been pot­ty train­ing for over a year and a half . My son wore under­wear, and hard­ly had any pee acci­dents, but was a stool with­hold­er. He would know­ing­ly not go, and after a few days he would hide and poop in his pants. I am not a pushover and when I say I tried every­thing, I did! I was very annoyed by peo­ple who told me, “he’s just not ready”, or “he won’t get mar­ried with poop in his pants”. A friend gave me Dr. Daum’s infor­ma­tion. I went to his sem­i­nar and instant­ly knew that he would be able to help me and my son. Dr. Daum is mat­ter of fact and very pas­sion­ate. I tru­ly believe that he wants to help chil­dren over this hur­dle. I was ner­vous and excit­ed for my son to meet him.

We went to the office two weeks lat­er, and Dr Daum told us about the plan. He was very stern, and, to my sur­prise, my very ener­getic son sat qui­et­ly and lis­tened to every­thing. We fol­lowed the pro­gram explic­it­ly. After a tough few days, my son adjust­ed to using the pot­ty as need­ed. I was amazed at how quick­ly we got results, and how well my son respond­ed to Dr Daum’s program.

It’s been three months and my son now uses the pot­ty inde­pen­dent­ly. We are very thank­ful to Dr Daum.

Andrea C.a grate­ful mother
Our 16 Year Old’s Strug­gle With Enco­pre­sis Is Final­ly Over!!

Evan is 16 years old and has dup15q syn­drome which includes devel­op­men­tal delays and autism.  He has been strug­gling with con­sti­pa­tion and enco­pore­sis his whole life.  This has con­sumed our lives — dai­ly records of when he went the bath­room, how long it has been since he went, etc…this was our life and we were exhaust­ed.  Evan was at the point that he was going once a week with an ene­ma and doing this with a 16 year old was not an easy task.  We had trav­eled to numer­ous GI spe­cial­ists.  Evan had botox in Decem­ber and we went away for the hol­i­day.  After the hol­i­day, he was a mess.  Com­plete­ly backed up and no bow­el move­ment in 3 weeks, even an ene­ma was not work­ing.  We went to the ER and he was admit­ted for a 3 day clean out.

My hus­band and I were get­ting very dis­cour­aged about the thought of deal­ing with this for­ev­er — a 16 year old in pull ups.  It lim­its who will work with him and where he can get a job — it impacts every aspect of his life and in turn ours.  We felt like we had tried every­thing and this was just going to be our life.  Then I saw some­one post­ed a link to a sem­i­nar by Dr. Daum.  So, I clicked on it and imme­di­ate­ly knew this was a sign, that there is still hope.

I sent an email to Dr. Daum and the nurse got right back to me and said Dr. Daum thinks he can help and wants to talk.  I start­ed to well up know­ing that there might still be hope.  Our con­ver­sa­tion with Dr. Daum was very can­did and our fam­i­ly was ful­ly on board to try this.  Keep in mind we have two oth­er typ­i­cal chil­dren so we knew this would take a vil­lage, but this was our top priority.

We start­ed the pro­gram and I won’t get into all of the details but after 2 days he was acci­dent free both day and night and hav­ing a bow­el move­ment dai­ly.  He has nev­er had a dai­ly bow­el move­ment in his entire life.  Evan was also in under­wear both day and night with no acci­dents.  This was hard for any­one to believe.  We kept him home from school for just over a week to focus on this pro­gram.  Evan was exceed­ing any expec­ta­tions we could ever imag­ine.  This was a dream come true.

The next hur­dle was school — we sent Evan back to school and he was stay­ing dry at school but not going at all but would go when he came home.  On the fourth day back I received a text mes­sage from his teacher — Evan had a bow­el move­ment in the toi­let on his own!  I also received an email from the assis­tant prin­ci­pal!  Evan has nev­er, in his entire life, had a bow­el move­ment in the toi­let at school.  This is at the two week mark of Dr. Daum’s program.

We are still in fre­quent con­tact with Dr. Daum on the phone and know there may be bumps in the road as we con­tin­ue.  To have some­one there to keep you in check — “you can do this, you are doing great, don’t cave in”, etc.…has been just what we need­ed and the most impor­tant and unique aspect of this pro­gram.  His approach from a big pic­ture aspect is some­thing no one else does and it works!  I want to let oth­er par­ents know — I have a 16 year old spe­cial needs child who is sig­nif­i­cant­ly impaired and if you told me when we start­ed with Dr. Daum that in two weeks he would be in under­wear, no acci­dents day or night and hav­ing dai­ly bow­el move­ments, I would nev­er believe that would be pos­si­ble.  But I am so thank­ful for Dr. Daum’s guid­ance as that is exact­ly where Evan is today!  Thank you Dr. Daum for chang­ing all of our lives!

Evan’s Par­ents
Father of 7-year-old describes an end to the heart­break of enco­pre­sis

Our 7-year-old daugh­ter had been liv­ing with the shame and humil­i­a­tion of not being able to use the toi­let to poop. It was frus­trat­ing and heart­break­ing for us and our daugh­ter as she tried to hide her use of pullups and all of the acci­dents in school, camp and with fam­i­ly. There was also the phys­i­cal pain she endured from hold­ing it in, some­times for days.

This all changed when we dis­cov­ered Dr. Daum and his pro­gram for treat­ing our daughter’s con­di­tion. We were sur­prised and thrilled at how quick­ly it worked. Our daugh­ter who is very strong willed accept­ed the rules almost imme­di­ate­ly. We saw the results on the first day! By the third day our daugh­ter said “I don’t know what I was so afraid of”. It has now been 30 days and our daugh­ter goes to the bath­room on her own when­ev­er she needs to. This is what Dr Daum calls self-initiation.

We can­not put into works how grate­ful we are and want to encour­age any­one one else suf­fer­ing from this con­di­tion to con­tact Dr Daum. He coun­seled us each day by phone and reas­sured us that we were not on our own. We had been to numer­ous ther­a­pists who saw our daugh­ter once a week and none of it ever made a difference.

 

Father of 7-year-old
Resolv­ing enco­pre­sis before kinder­garten. So grate­ful to Dr. Daum

When my son Jor­dan was three, he was pot­ty-trained in a week. While the pot­ty train­ing was ini­tial­ly a suc­cess, Jor­dan start­ed to exhib­it signs of with­hold­ing once he start­ed pre-school in Sep­tem­ber. Being in a new, larg­er school was stress­ful for Jor­dan. In addi­tion, Jor­dan was start­ing to come to terms with some of the chal­lenges of hav­ing par­ents who are divorced. Jor­dan was final­ly old enough to per­ceive the dif­fi­cul­ties asso­ci­at­ed with switch­ing between two homes with dif­fer­ent par­ent­ing styles and routines. 

Over the course of the school year, Jor­dan began to with­hold and the num­ber of days between his bow­el move­ments grew longer and longer. The more he with­held, the more like­ly he was to have small acci­dents at school. 

By age 4, oth­er things were chang­ing in Jordan’s life. Both his moth­er and father were in new rela­tion­ships with part­ners who had chil­dren, and both his moth­er and father moved to new homes. By that point, the acci­dents became a dai­ly occur­rence, often­times mul­ti­ple times a day. At school, Jor­dan start­ed to feel embar­rass­ment and shame over his acci­dents, espe­cial­ly since most of his fel­low class­mates were using the toilet.

When things reached a cri­sis, Jordan’s father and I reached out to Dr. Daum. We were fair­ly cer­tain that Jor­dan had enco­pre­sis at that point. Dr. Daum’s pro­gram appealed to us because it did not involve many months of hos­pi­tal vis­its and inva­sive tests. In addi­tion, we knew of peo­ple who had been treat­ed suc­cess­ful­ly by Dr. Daum in the past, and rec­og­nized that he was indeed a world-renowned expert in the field. 

Our first con­ver­sa­tion with Michelle gave us hope that what our son was strug­gling with could be man­aged through med­ica­tion. She answered our ques­tions and took a huge amount of time to learn about Jor­dan and explain Dr. Daum’s approach. Her warmth and pro­fes­sion­al­ism was reas­sur­ing, and we imme­di­ate­ly fol­lowed up by email to sched­ule a time to talk to Dr. Daum.

Our con­ver­sa­tion with Dr. Daum went above and beyond what any patient would nor­mal­ly receive from a physi­cian or hos­pi­tal. He called on the week­end and spent over an hour on the phone, get­ting to know us as par­ents, learn­ing about Jor­dan, ask­ing ques­tions about Jordan’s health and behav­ior, and describ­ing his plan for ini­ti­at­ing treat­ment. Soon we began giv­ing Jor­dan med­ica­tion to stim­u­late bow­el move­ments, and we haven’t looked back since. There was an imme­di­ate improve­ment, and while there have been a few times over the past year when Jor­dan has regressed, Michelle and Dr. Daum were always avail­able by phone or email to help guide us and make adjust­ments in his med­ica­tion dosage and tim­ing of dosage. While Dr. Daum is extreme­ly busy pro­vid­ing care to his patients in New York and over the phone, he nev­er ignores a phone call or emer­gency, and doesn’t hes­i­tate to find a solu­tion to the prob­lem. Dr. Daum has also tak­en the time to have con­ver­sa­tions by phone with Jordan’s preschool teach­ers and psy­chi­a­trist, so that they too under­stand and can help sup­port my son’s treatment. 

My life, Jordan’s life, and my family’s life have been changed because of the care Dr. Daum pro­vid­ed. Jor­dan is now a hap­py, con­fi­dent, healthy child who is par­tic­i­pat­ing in all aspects of life from sum­mer camp, to swim­ming lessons to gym­nas­tics. He self-ini­ti­ates a bow­el move­ment dai­ly, and has no acci­dents dur­ing the day. And I know that Jor­dan will have no prob­lems when he starts kinder­garten at a new school next year. I can say unequiv­o­cal­ly that Dr. Daum and Michelle have changed our lives for the bet­ter and pro­vid­ed our fam­i­ly with a com­mit­ted, thought­ful, and indi­vid­u­al­ized approach not avail­able any­where else. Thank you for every­thing you’ve done- we are tru­ly grateful.

Rebec­ca B.
He Gave Me His Cell Num­ber and Told Me to Call Each Night

Before meet­ing Dr. Daum, my four-year-old daugh­ter refused to be toi­let trained. We went to our pedi­a­tri­cian count­less times, but were unable to find a solu­tion. Final­ly, a friend gave me one of Dr. Daum’s brochures, and I made an appoint­ment that day. My daugh­ter took to Dr. Daum right off the bat. He spoke her lan­guage. He gave me his cell phone num­ber and told me to call him each night. Can you imag­ine that? My daugh­ter was com­plete­ly toi­let trained in 2 days! Dr. Daum accom­plished in 2 days what I had been try­ing to do for 2 years!

Patri­ca M.
Shout­ing From The Roof Tops!

My 4 year old son has had enco for 1.5 years. It has been a long road with many ups and downs. I found the enco­pre­sis sup­port group on Face­book 4 weeks after he start­ed his new school this year and his acci­dents were at an all time high of 4–5 a day. It was crip­pling his and our lives. We felt out of con­trol. Through the sup­port group, we found Dr. Daum. We need­ed his help. We are 10 days into his pro­gram and in all hon­est­ly, we did hit rock bot­tom. I had my doubts that my guy could be helped. Dr. Daum and his wife Michelle were there at every bump includ­ing an hour long call at 7:30am on Sat­ur­day morn­ing. Yes­ter­day was his first acci­dent-free day in 8 weeks. And last night our lit­tle guy woke us at mid­night to ask for help using to bath­room. I want to shout from the roof tops we are so hap­py! And so proud of our boy. And so thank­ful to Dr. Daum. I know he still has a long road ahead, but we need­ed this win, and we need to cel­e­brate now.

Hai­ley H.
Christ­mas comes ear­ly for a lit­tle girl in Scot­land

I had to e-mail to say we are the hap­pi­est par­ents in the world tonight all thanks to you and Dr. Daum. My husband’s employ­er put on a spe­cial Christ­mas evening which we have just returned from. As you know Abi­gail has been doing bril­liant­ly on your programme.

It was so won­der­ful watch­ing her run­ning around and enjoy­ing her­self with all the oth­er chil­dren, meet­ing San­ta and play­ing on the boun­cy cas­tle. No squat­ting in cor­ners with­hold­ing, being grumpy and huff­ing until we took her home. Every birth­day, Christ­mas, wed­ding, friend or fam­i­ly get togeth­er we have shot video of our beau­ti­ful daugh­ter. Start­ing at the age of two she’s not smil­ing and being hap­py, she’s not enjoy­ing life in the way a child of her age should — she is with­hold­ing. She is squat­ting in the cor­ner with her knees in her chest, face bright red and grunt­ing.  It’s been so painful to watch her do this.  As a mum­my it is unbear­able to feel so helpless.

All I can say is thank you, thank you, thank you Michelle and Dr. Daum for the help and sup­port you have giv­en us. To see this aston­ish­ing trans­for­ma­tion in eigh­teen days…I just can­not get my head around it.  The fact that you did this over the phone, over three thou­sand miles away I mean come on, you’ve got to be kid­ding?  We have nev­er been giv­en ANY hope in three years. Hav­ing seen maybe a dozen med­ical pro­fes­sion­als with­in ten miles of our home got us nowhere. Every­where we went seek­ing help for Abi­gail we were told she’d grow out of it, there was noth­ing any­one could do, we should just try not to react. I know you both under­stand the toll this takes on every indi­vid­ual in a family.

Christ­mas has come ear­ly this year.  Abi­gail is so hap­py she has no more pads in her pants, no more leak­age or being frog-marched to the toi­let every few hours to be checked and/or changed, no more pull ups at night.

I want­ed to share our hap­pi­ness, I am so glad we found you!

Christ­mas comes ear­ly for a lit­tle girl in Scotland
From A Small and Remote Town in Col­orado

We start­ed work­ing with Dr Daum with our 5 year old in Octo­ber. It hasn’t been an overnight process with our daugh­ter but look­ing back at where we were a year ago, our lives have changed com­plete­ly in the poop aspect. His régime takes 100% com­mit­ment. There will be times when you want to throw in the tow­el, and weep (which we did!) but it is worth it. There is no oth­er treat­ment avail­able where a provider will sup­port you by talk­ing with you mul­ti­ple times a day ini­tial­ly and be per­son­al­ly avail­able for your ques­tions and con­cerns. We were at a loss as to where to turn, and com­mit­ting to his pro­gram was the best thing we ever did.

A fam­i­ly in Colorado
Fam­i­ly Ther­a­pist Seeks Help From Doc­tor Daum For Her Daugh­ter

Hi Michelle,   Was think­ing about and pray­ing this morn­ing about this, and want­ed to write it to you and Dr. Daum. 

Jim and I so appre­ci­ate all your hus­band is doing to help us with Megan.  I am sure you all are aware of how frus­trat­ing her prob­lem is for us.  It is so painful to watch your child strug­gle with some­thing as basic as a bod­i­ly func­tion.  And, it’s been going on for years and years…

I am a mar­riage and fam­i­ly ther­a­pist, who has many years of expe­ri­ence help­ing fam­i­lies solve prob­lems. It has been so frus­trat­ing to not be able to find the right help for my own child through the years.  It’s amaz­ing to me how very avail­able Dr Daum is, which is so refresh­ing to us! Sim­ply his atti­tude of car­ing about us has made a world of dif­fer­ence and giv­en us much hope!

Thank you both so much!

 

Sin­cere­ly, Amy
Mom reports on Day 4 of Doc­tor Daum pro­gram

To those that are think­ing about using Dr. Daum’s program.…My son is 6 and will be start­ing kinder­garten in a few weeks. We had worked with his reg­u­lar pedi­a­tri­cian start­ing at age 4 and a local gas­troen­terol­o­gist (I am in Cen­tral Flori­da) since he turned 5. We had tried EVERYTHING!!! Under our local gastroenterologist’s direc­tion we had been treat­ing him with Miralax for the last 9 months. We had seen small improve­ments, but noth­ing was work­ing to our satisfaction…he still soiled his pants before every bow­el move­ment, and some­times mul­ti­ple times per day. I have been wash­ing stinky under­wear FOREVER. We are now on Day 4 of Dr. Daum’s pro­gram and I can hon­est­ly say I’ve seen more improve­ment in the past 4 days than in the pre­vi­ous two years. I have not had to wash a sin­gle pair of stinky under­wear for the past 3 days!!! Dr. Daum called me mul­ti­ple times over the week­end to check on our progress. I had his phone num­ber if I had any ques­tions. This morn­ing I had a ques­tion and Michelle got back to me with an answer in min­utes. The per­son­al­ized ser­vice is amaz­ing and I am hope­ful that we have final­ly found a solu­tion that will solve my son’s problems.

Teri
My 3-Year Old Was Ter­ri­fied Of The Toi­let

I saw Dr. Daum because my 3yr old son was pet­ri­fied to go to the toi­let. He would scream, turn red and hit me when­ev­er I would put him on the toi­let. He would only go in pull ups, and that was his last resort. After see­ing Dr. Daum he was able to sit down on the toi­let in 1 day and be com­plete­ly pot­ty trained with no acci­dents in one week. I liked that we were able to talk to Dr. Daum every­day to explain what was going on with our son and ask any ques­tions if we had con­cerns. Dr. Daum talks to you as if you are a friend, not a num­ber. I would absolute­ly rec­om­mend Dr. Daum if you have a child who is hav­ing dif­fi­cul­ty going to the bath­room. If I did not go to him, my son would still be in pull ups.

Moth­er of ter­ri­fied 3-year old
Fam­i­ly from Aus­tralia seeks treat­ment from Doc­tor Daum

Con­tact­ing Dr Daum to help us with our 5 year old’s enco­pre­sis was the best thing we could pos­si­bly do.    We had spent a for­tune on spe­cial­ists over the years with no progress.  The fact that we are in Aus­tralia was no bar­ri­er for Dr Daum.  We soon estab­lished con­ve­nient call­ing times and I spoke with him every day.  Our son now self ini­ti­ates 100% of the time.   Dr Daum pro­vid­ed the guid­ance, sup­port, encour­age­ment and med­ical exper­tise we need­ed to set us on the right path to resolv­ing our son’s enco­pre­sis.  Thanks to Dr Daum, our son and our whole fam­i­ly is so much hap­pi­er and relaxed and we are able to do things as a fam­i­ly that were pre­vi­ous­ly chal­leng­ing.  Dr Daum is a hero in our eyes.

Vera
My Son Is “A Dif­fer­ent Child” After Toi­let Train­ing with Doc­tor Daum

I am the moth­er of a sev­en year old boy who I knew was suf­fer­ing from enco­pre­sis.  I was so frus­trat­ed with the rec­om­men­da­tions I had been receiv­ing from my pedi­a­tri­cian, gas­troen­terol­o­gist, and oth­ers to no avail.  My son had chron­ic stom­ach pain and X-rays con­sis­tent­ly revealed backed up stool in his intestines.  In an effort to learn more and search for solu­tions, I came upon Dr. Daum’s pro­file online and his expe­ri­ence with enco­pre­sis.  I was skep­ti­cal, and put off this option — due to finances and tim­ing.  I wish I had done it even soon­er!  It would have saved us all a tremen­dous amount of heartache and agony, not to men­tion the fact that in the inter­im, my son’s self esteem and mood were declin­ing due to his lev­el of dis­com­fort and irri­tabil­i­ty.  Michelle spent a sig­nif­i­cant amount of time with me on the phone to get our fam­i­ly his­to­ry and back­ground infor­ma­tion.  I felt heard and under­stood.  We chose a week at the end of sum­mer to con­sult with Dr. Daum.  I fol­lowed his instruc­tions and he knows this dis­or­der inside and out.  We spoke dai­ly and he told me the amount of meds and the time we need­ed to spend in the bath­room each day.  I can con­fi­dent­ly say that by doing this, he can help your child!  Ever since this inter­ven­tion, my son has not had one acci­dent and has not soiled him­self even once.  His strat­e­gy is effec­tive.  I am so grate­ful to him for his exper­tise and his wis­dom that has come from his years of expe­ri­ence in deal­ing with enco­pre­sis.  It goes with­out say­ing how high­ly I rec­om­mend him if your child is strug­gling with enco­pre­sis.  It will be the best deci­sion you can ever make for your child, not to men­tion your entire fam­i­ly.  My now eight year old son is thriv­ing, con­fi­dent, and like a dif­fer­ent child.  I can­not rec­om­mend Dr. Daum high­ly enough.

Moth­er of sev­en year old boy
A Thank You Let­ter to Doc­tor Daum

Dear Dr. Daum and Michelle,
It has been 6 months since we start­ed in your pro­gram and I just want­ed to stop and say ‘Thank you’!
We had been try­ing to resolve my son’s poop­ing prob­lems since he was 4. We had tried EVERYTHING. Rewards. Stick­ers. Charts. Bribery. And even occa­sion­al­ly yelling – which I am not proud of. But still soil­ing acci­dents were a dai­ly real­i­ty. I had suc­cess­ful­ly pot­ty trained 3 chil­dren. Why couldn’t I do this?
We sought the advice of our reg­u­lar pedi­a­tri­cian, but saw lit­tle improve­ment. We saw our local gas­troen­terol­o­gist, but still saw lit­tle improve­ment. So now it’s June and my son is turn­ing 6 and about to start kinder­garten. What am I going to do?
Late one evening I reviewed (again!) some of the inter­net sites on enco­pre­sis. I saw some rec­om­men­da­tions for Dr. Daum. I was ner­vous about con­tact­ing a doc­tor halfway across the coun­try. But I felt like I had to explore every pos­si­ble option to get my son ready for school. So I sent the email to Dr. Daum and fig­ured I’d at least hear what he had to say.
I received a call from Michelle the very next day and was impressed with the lev­el of detail in her ques­tions. She was clear about the sig­nif­i­cant com­mit­ment this plan would take. But she was also con­fi­dent that we could fix this prob­lem. I was ready. Final­ly, there was a light at the end of this very long tun­nel we’d been liv­ing in.
We start­ed the pro­gram in July and I began to see results with­in the first few days. I was SO excit­ed. NOTHING had ever worked like this before. After YEARS of wash­ing stinky underwear…he was CLEAN!! And now, 6 months lat­er, I am absolute­ly con­vinced that this is the best thing I could have done for my son.
What sets Dr. Daum apart for me is the lev­el of com­mit­ment and per­son­al­ized ser­vice. With most physi­cians you get a pre­scrip­tion or a plan and then come back in 6 weeks or 6 months. But not with Dr. Daum. Dur­ing the first few days of treat­ment, he called me every cou­ple of hours! He made adjust­ments right away. If I had a ques­tion – and I had lots of them – I got an answer right away.
When we had set­backs – and there were a cou­ple – he told me exact­ly what to do and how to han­dle them. This is not your typ­i­cal doc­tor – patient rela­tion­ship. Dr. Daum becomes your PARTNER in this process. He is tru­ly inter­est­ed in your child’s suc­cess and gives you the tools to make it happen.
I am so grate­ful for Dr. Daum’s help!! My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner.
Thank you!!

Brendan’s Mom
SO proud of him­self…

First of all, thank you so much for help­ing us teach our Michael to poop on the pot­ty! We can’t get over the change in him. We’ve been on the pro­gram since 52 and he is ini­ti­at­ing each time and his under­wear are stay­ing clean. But the best part is he is SO proud of him­self. His behav­ior over­all is just so much bet­ter. He’s always been our hand­ful child, but over this past week he’s been very com­pli­ant. Thanks again.

Lynn & Family
Social Worker/Mom cheers about her son’s first day of Kinder­garten!!

Hi Michelle and Doc­tor Daum,

I want­ed to share our suc­cess sto­ry with you. It was a won­der­ful expe­ri­ence work­ing with Dr. Daum.  The best thing we ever did to help this issue was con­tact you. See­ing our son so con­fi­dent and hap­py again is the best feel­ing ever.

We start­ed pot­ty train­ing our son Michael at 3 years old. Michael would have been very con­tent to stay in dia­pers at this stage and did not express any desire to start the toi­let train­ing process. Know­ing this piece about our son we ini­ti­at­ed the process on his behalf. Michael did great at the start. He was very quick with using the toi­let for uri­nat­ing and would make a bow­el move­ment on the toi­let with min­i­mal prompt­ing by us. After a month of what we thought was great progress with Michael toi­let train­ing, our youngest child start­ed to crawl and become more inter­ac­tive with Michael and his toys. It was at this junc­ture, with our daugh­ter reach­ing some key mile­stones, that our son Michael start­ed with-hold­ing. We knew right away there was a prob­lem and we start­ed to place him on the toi­let after ever meal, altered his diet to add more fiber and tried talk­ing with him about why its OK to use the toi­let for bow­el movements.

Michael is a very active child who does not like to stop what he is doing to use the toi­let and he became very upset with us con­stant­ly putting him on the toi­let to make a bow­el move­ment. When Michael final­ly went after these with-hold­ing spells he would have a rather large bow­el move­ment and show signs of pain when using the toi­let. This pain trig­gered a pat­tern with Michael with-hold­ing for days. It was awful to watch him go through this. At first we were very gen­tle with him. We start­ed stick­er charts, offered rewards, and would get him treats or a toy if he final­ly went. These tricks nev­er last­ed long and no mat­ter what we tried to bribe him with, he would still with-hold. We took him to his pedi­a­tri­cian at this point. She stat­ed he would be fine and told us to use miralax. We were nev­er giv­en a dosage and even with the miralax Michael still would not go. At times I was so des­per­ate I would try and use a sup­pos­i­to­ry. This would pro­vide imme­di­ate results but would trau­ma­tize our son — which then lead to more with-hold­ing. So here it is now a year and a half after we start­ed pot­ty train­ing and Michael is with-hold­ing. My hus­band and I were at our wits end. Gen­tle prompt­ing turned into frus­tra­tion, yelling, plead­ing and at our worst — pun­ish­ment, by tak­ing things away. Every time he need­ed to use the bath­room he would scream and cry. We would scream and cry.

The day that final­ly prompt­ed change was the day Michael and I were in the bath­room. I was pleading/begging with him to use that bath­room. Telling him he soiled his pants yet anoth­er time. I was yelling now and in all hon­est­ly it was not at him, but at the sit­u­a­tion. In the midst of my anger and frus­tra­tion, my lit­tle 4 12 year son look at me and said “I am sor­ry Mom­my — will you for­give me?”. BAM!!! How those words hung in the air. What was I doing to him. He should nev­er be ask­ing me to for­give him over this. I quick­ly cleaned him up and went into anoth­er room to break­down. I just messed up my son for life. I was con­vinced irrepara­ble dam­age was done to him. I am a social work­er. I should have been able to toi­let train my son. I was con­vinced I was a fail­ure as a par­ent and I failed my child.

After I put him to bed that night my hus­band looked at me and said its time we get some pro­fes­sion­al help.  I went through my stool with-hold­ing inter­net search­es (yes, I had book­marked about 50 of them). I kept com­ing back to Dr. Daum’s web­site. Every­thing I was read­ing on his site showed me hope and explained my child to a tee. I emailed right away. That evening you con­tact­ed me. With­in 24 hours we had a start date to begin the pro­gram. I was scared and not sure that this would work but I had no choice any more — some­thing need­ed to be done. Our son was going to start kinder­garten in 5 months.

We start­ed the pro­gram in April. Despite any of the tricks my mind would play on me or how much I want­ed to just stop the pro­gram, I did not. We talked to Dr. Daum sev­er­al times a day. We did every­thing he said and by the sec­ond day -YES sec­ond day; Michael was get­ting up and using the toi­let on his own to make a bow­el move­ment. My son was so hap­py! He was vis­i­bly proud of him­self. My hus­band and I, for the first time in over a year, felt like there was a light at the end of the tun­nel. This pro­gram is real­ly about the process. Its about set­ting a rou­tine and fol­low­ing that rou­tine every day. Its about work­ing with Dr. Daum dur­ing bumps in the road which you will face. In col­lab­o­rat­ing with him, you learn how to han­dle the unex­pect­ed and to keep your child successful.

My son uses the toi­let every­day now with out prompt­ing. He is not fight­ing it any more. He is more con­fi­dent than he ever was and he can han­dle school. We now know what to do if there is any sign of a set back. If there is a set back we address it right away so that he nev­er has to expe­ri­ence the pain and stress of with-hold­ing. But again, its all about fol­low­ing the pro­gram and being cre­ative as well (I can not tell you how many ways I now know how to bake a lax­a­tive into var­i­ous baked goods).

My son start­ed Kinder­garten today, I am not wor­ried or afraid of an acci­dent. I know he has the tools to be suc­cess­ful all day. That to me is awe­some. You will nev­er under­stand how much trau­ma this issue caus­es in a fam­i­ly until you are out of it and take a look back. It is so great at the end of the day to see my hus­band and not talk about whether or not Michael has used the toi­let. Absolute FREEDOM. See­ing my son be able to go places and do things with­out the stress of hav­ing to use the toi­let, is absolute Free­dom for him.

Any­one that I know who is going through this I have rec­om­mend­ed to Dr. Daum. Dr. Daum is a pas­sion­ate per­son who is there to help you. He always answers your call day or night and he is help­ing you through this every step of the way. Dr. Daum you are a true Heal­er! I could nev­er thank you enough!!! You have tol­er­at­ed my crazy ques­tions and you have helped me ratio­nal­ize through all the bumps in the road. I hon­est­ly could nev­er thank you enough!

Many Thanks,

Mau­reen R., LMSW
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